Forgiveness: Eliminating the Hook

"For most of us, forgiveness is a sensitive and very tricky subject. On the one hand, we want to forgive and know we need to forgive. On the other hand, we believe that to forgive someone is somehow saying that what they did was okay. Forgiveness doesn't let the other person off the hook. It eliminates the hook altogether. Forgiveness is the only path to acceptance. Not until we can accept an experience without the judgmental story we often attach to it are we free to choose another way of seeing things." (Iyanla Vanzant, Up From Here, Reclaiming the Male Spirit: A Guide to Transforming Emotions into Power and Freedom)